i came across a post the other day, something around the lines of “who would buffy be without her friends” and “who would they be without her” and it brought me to this scene. we all know that xander may not be the smartest, and he wasn’t wrote to be the smartest but he’s known for quite a number of “smart” speeches, but this isn’t a smart speech, it’s simple. her friends could be lost without her, dead even for obvious reasons but when it’s personal, her friends are always there to help. xander’s known to be the “eyes” of the group, the one that sees the things she can’t. i personally believe that he’s still in love with her, maybe not - but that’s what i choose to believe, and because he’s in love with her, he watches her relationship with riley from afar, just as he did with angel (deep down, he’s probably jealous of what they have/he has). but now he’s learnt to control what he feels for her, whereas season 2 with angel he couldn’t as much. so the point of this is that post is that this scene, is the simplest way you can descibe how much buffy needs her friends(xander) buffy can slay everything that comes her way but without them/him she would be the same old buffy that some would called self served and would most likely be shut down from people. she saved the world alot, but ther friends saved her.